Or is it tough love?
From a HR perspective, the answer depends on context and frequency.
Generally, bullying is defined as repeated, unreasonable behaviour that creates a hostile or intimidating environment.
So, a single angry outburst, while unprofessional, may not meet the “threshold” of bullying.
However, if it’s repeated insults, humiliation, or name-calling (especially from a boss), that’s workplace bullying. This can fall under misconduct in most company policies and may be subject to disciplinary action.
“You are so stupid” is problematic because it attacks the person, not the action.
HR need to distinguish between criticising performance vs. insulting the employee.
And if said by a manager in front of others, it creates psychological harm.
In fact, even one instance can affect morale, confidence, and retention.
Bottom line, calling someone stupid at work is never acceptable language from a professional standpoint.
Whether it’s a misconduct or bullying depends on frequency and severity.
And HR’s role is to set standard of respect, intervene early, and prevent rotten patterns from taking root.
Gitu.
xoxoxo, AuntyHR
