The Situation: I have worked in the company for 5 years as an executive. There was a position open for a manager, a role that I believe I am qualified for. However, the promotion was given to another executive who has been with the company for only one year, and happens to be a personal friend of my boss. This decision has left me feeling overlooked and questioning my future in this company. I am torn between staying on the job and exploring other opportunities outside, rather than holding onto anger.
My Thoughts:
1. It’s totally natural to feel disappointed and frustrated when a promotion that we believed we deserved goes to someone else, especially when we have favouritism in our thoughts. So, it’s okay to feel angry, as it’s important to acknowledge and understand our emotions before making any decisions.
2. After we are done being angry, we should take a step back and objectively assess the situation. Consider the reasons behind the decision and try to understand our boss’s perspective. There may be factors that we are unaware of, and being a favourite is not the only possible explanation. For example, specific skills or experiences that were valued for the managerial position.
3. So, instead of dwelling on the promotion we didn’t receive, we can focus on our own growth and development. Have a conversation with our boss to understand what areas we can work on to enhance our chances for future promotions. Use this as an opportunity to set clear goals and seek feedback on our performance.
4. Meanwhile, we give the new manager a chance too. Although it may be challenging, we should try to work with the new manager and give them an opportunity to prove themselves. They may bring a fresh perspective and new ideas to the team. Building a positive working relationship with them can benefit both our professional growth and the success of the team.
5. And honestly, after 5 years in the company, it’s reasonable to explore other opportunities outside, especially if we feel our career progression is stagnating. Update our resume, network with professionals in our field, and keep an eye out for potential openings that align with our goals and aspirations.
Whatever it is, it’s important to make a well-informed decision and not act solely out of anger or frustration. Learn from the experience.
In the corporate world, fairness is not always guaranteed, and such situations can serve as valuable lessons. Embrace the challenges and setbacks as opportunities for personal and professional growth. With grace and an open-mind.
Happy weekend, everybody! I will be travelling to Malacca tomorrow for a beautiful wedding. My first road-trip since becoming unemployed, so I am looking forward to it! Exciting times!
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